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Friday, December 31st, 2010
“A bunch of my friends and I went to the rooftop bar of a hotel. About a half-hour before midnight, I ran down to my car because I had forgotten my camera. I figured I would have plenty of time to get back up there and find my friends. I grabbed my camera and got into an elevator all by myself. About halfway up, the elevator started shaking and stopped completely. I was trapped. A guy came on over the loudspeaker and told me there was an electrical short but he would have me out soon. A few minutes later, I could hear people outside counting down and celebrating. I didn’t get out until almost one in the morning. The worst part was, my friends hadn’t even missed me!” —Elena, 25
“Every year I throw a big dinner party on December 31st. I was really excited last year because I had been dating a guy for a few months and was glad to have someone to kiss when the ball dropped. We hadn’t talked much between Christmas and New Year’s Eve, but I figured he was busy with the holidays. I cooked all day and made a great meal. My guy showed up late and the party was in full swing. When everyone sat down for dinner we went around the table and said what we hoped for next year. I said I wanted to take more trips with my boyfriend. Then it was his turn. He sat there silently for a minute. Then he muttered that he couldn’t date me anymore and got up and left. I was devastated. He hadn’t given me any clues that he was unhappy. I spent the rest of the night crying in my room.” —Vanessa, 29
“My boyfriend, Jim, and I usually stay in for New Year’s, but a few years back we decided to go to a big club. It cost a lot of money to buy tickets, but we figured it was a nice treat. We drank fancy cocktails, danced, and were having a blast. Then, while Jim was in the bathroom, this creepy guy started trying to grind on me. I told him to back off, but he was really aggressive. When Jim came back, he saw what was going on and told the guy to step back. The guy was a freak and started screaming, and then he stormed off. A few minutes later a bouncer came up to us and told us we were being kicked out. The creep had lied and said Jim had pushed him and acted crazy. We tried to explain the real situation, but no one would listen. We were forced to leave without a refund, and rang in the holiday by walking home to my apartment.” —Jessica, 31
“I live with my sister and she went out of town over New Year’s. I had been dying to borrow this new silver silk dress she’d recently bought, but she wouldn’t lend it to me. She hadn’t worn it yet, and had spent a ton of money on it. I decided to sneak the dress out of her closet to wear to a party. I figured I would just be careful and she would never know. I got so many compliments on the dress and had a great time. I was careful to only drink clear liquids, so there’d be no chance of staining it. At midnight the party went crazy, everyone was hugging and cheering. One guy came up to kiss my cheek and accidentally tripped. His cranberry drink went flying down the whole front of the dress. I immediately ran to the sink to wash it off, but it wouldn’t come out. I spent the rest of the night stressing out telling my sis. I ended up calling her to confess and she really let me have it.” —Ann, 23
“I have been together with my boyfriend, Eric, for several years. One of his female friends has always bothered me, and I can tell she has feelings for him. What’s worse is that she’s a total bitch to me. Anyway, on New Year’s Eve, we went to a friend’s house and she was there. She kept trying to take Eric’s attention away from me, but I just ignored her. Throughout the night she got progressively more drunk. Right at midnight, Eric turned to kiss me and she slid in between us and tried to make out with him. Her nerve shocked me. Eric immediately pushed her away, and she just smiled at me. The mental image of them kissing was not how I wanted to start my new year. The rest of the night she went around telling people what good lips he had. Eric literally had to restrain me from slapping her!” —Karen, 21
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Thursday, December 23rd, 2010
Giving a guy your digits requires finesse. Read on for a few tips that will make your dating life a lot easier!
Do remember that confidence is key
Most dudes are terrified to ask for a girl’s info. So if you’ve been chatting up a nice, cute guy all night, don’t be afraid to take the reins. Grab a cocktail napkin—old-school style—and scribble your digits down. Hand it to him, and tell him that you’d love to keep the conversation going some other time.
Don’t give him your email if you wouldn’t give him your phone number
If you’re not enjoying his company, and you don’t want to see him again, don’t suggest swapping emails, in lieu of numbers, and hope he gets the hint. Instead, it’s best to follow the advice in the next point.
Do let him know if you’re just not that interested
If you don’t like him, don’t give him your contact info. Neither of you will benefit if you ignore all of his calls and texts. Of course you don’t want to be rude when you turn him down–and you don’t have to be. I know it can be tempting to tell him a white lie, but it’s best to politely decline.
Don’t give out a fake number
This is so mean! We’re not in middle school anymore, so rather than prank the poor guy, just let him down easy.
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Thursday, December 2nd, 2010
Chelsea, from Detroit,* adores her best friend, Alice,* but has a hard time dealing with her popularity with boys. “Most seniors are worried about finding a prom date, but Alice has an issue that involves too many prom dates,” eighteen-year-old Chelsea says. “Obviously, for someone like me, who’s skipping out on prom altogether because I’m too shy, it can be a little frustrating.”
While Chelsea tries to be patient and understanding when listening to her friend moan about her “horrible” love life, she can’t help but let it get to her: “Sometimes I think something spiteful, like, Shut up–I hate you. I end up feeling guilty immediately afterward.” It’s easy to feel envious of people you don’t know&–like celebrities who have gorgeous boyfriends, impeccable outfits, and perfect skin. But when you’re jealous of someone in your own life, things can get very complicated.
Though no one wants to secretly harbor feelings of resentment toward a friend, it happens more often than you think. Niels van de Ven, a psychologist at Tilburg University in Holland who studies the causes and effects of envy, explains, “Your friends tend to be rather similar to you, so you’re more prone to compare yourself with them.”
“I’ve been competitive with my friends over the years,” says Alicia, a 20-year-old from Oxford, Massachusetts. “I thought those feelings would have subsided since I’m in college now, but that’s really not the case. I still get jealous if I see one of my friends wearing new clothes or going on a vacation that I can’t afford.” These feelings are common but can be destructive to friendships. “You can’t have a genuine relationship with someone if you’re jealous of them,” says Hattie, nineteen, from London. “[Envy] makes people bitter and angry.”
For Holly,* from Wyalusing, Pennsylvania, her big envy issue is weight. “My friends are thin, and I’m not,” the fifteen-year-old says. “We go shopping and they can fit into tight shirts and skinny jeans–and I can’t.” She also gets anxious about being left out. “I get upset when two of my friends who don’t know each other start talking,” she admits. “I’m so afraid that they’re going to replace me with each other. I’m really insecure, so it makes me wonder how important I am to them.”
“People with low self-esteem have lesser perceptions of themselves, which tends to make them become more envious,” van de Ven says. “If they repair the way they see themselves, these negative feelings could go away.”
The experts say that, ultimately, envy stems from the perception that someone has something you want that’s better than what you have. But, in truth, no one (not even your BFF with the acceptance letter to her choice Ivy) ever feels like everything in their life is perfect, which is important to keep in mind when you start comparing yourself with others.
Remember Chelsea with the boy-magnet best friend? “Alice actually told me she’s jealous that I have a passion about something–reading and writing–because she doesn’t,” she says. “It’s something I completely take for granted and never thought anyone would be envious of. Knowing that someone wants what you have makes you feel less guilty about wanting something they have.”
Understanding your emotions may be the first step toward dealing with envy issues. “I sometimes get jealous when my friends find boyfriends and fall in love,” says Amelia, a fifteen-year-old from Monterey, California. But she understands the root of her feelings: “I think it comes from not having much experience in relationships. When I see a friend who has that, I find myself wishing that someone would ask me out. I feel guilt when the person I’m jealous of is genuinely nice, but I can’t help being angry because I don’t have what they have.”
“Jealousy can get in the way of friendships when you have the attitude of “if I can’t have it, then no one else should,” Alicia says. “[But it's important to realize that] everyone has a different lifestyle. With my friends, if one of us gets something new or a guy comes into the picture for one of us, we’re happy for the person and show support.”
Embracing your weaknesses as well as your strengths could also help you in the long term. While you may be grumpy about not getting the highest test score in class because of Ms. Valedictorian, you can channel that frustration into something positive: You could study harder to try to get the top grade on the next exam. “Jealousy can reveal what is important to us and can motivate us to accomplish something, especially if it’s not malicious in nature,” says Richard Smith, a social psychologist who studies envy and other social emotions at the University of Kentucky.
But is it really possible to maintain a true friendship with someone you’re continuously competing with? Yes–as long as you can keep your negative feelings in check. Remembering that there isn’t a finite amount of success, money, or love is key. “We should feel happy for others when they do well,” van de Ven says. If you can’t applaud a friend’s achievements or she can’t support yours, you may need to reconsider your relationship.
In the end, constantly comparing yourself with others is counterproductive and may only hold you back from what you can really accomplish. “As I am getting older, I’m slowly overcoming my envy,” Alicia says. “I know it shouldn’t affect friendships and that having a close support system and good self-esteem will help me get past those feelings. If you really want something, you should just continue to work hard for it and follow your dreams.”
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Monday, November 29th, 2010
It happens even to the most take-charge people. Happy hour with the girls turns into an impromptu dinner, and you find yourself agreeing on Mexican even though you were jonesing for Italian fare. How did you get suckered? Most likely, you fell prey to someone whose seduction skills are more finely honed than yours. In fact, according to researchers, you face different forms of persuasion thousands of times a day. “When we come across people who seem to get everyone to do whatever they want them to do, we think they have some kind of magical gift,” says Chris St. Hilaire, author of 27 Powers of Persuasion: Simple Strategies to Seduce Audiences and Win Allies. But you, too, can use a few simple tricks to make sure more situations end up in your favor. To start persuading with the best of ‘em, follow these rules.
Extinguish Fear
Studies show that a person who is a psychopath—just stay with us for a second here—has a dysfunctional amygdala (that’s the part of the brain that processes emotion), which results in an absence of fear. Because of that, psychopaths are able to take risks coolly and confidently. “Understand that not all psychopaths are killers—they head up corporations and perform brain surgery too,” says Kevin Dutton, Ph.D., author of the forthcoming Split-Second Persuasion: The Ancient Art & New Science of Changing Minds. “They score power roles because they approach situations with a confidence that makes others trust them.”
Now, you can’t go messing with your amygdala, but you can build up your inner strength, which in turn, tamps down fear. For example, before you ask the hotel manager for a discount because the hot tub is out of order, or ask your boss about the promotion you’ve been angling for, practice your pitch. “You’ll come off as more self-assured—and more convincing—if you rehearse what you’re going to say,” explains G. Richard Shell, director of the University of Pennsylvania Wharton School’s Strategic Persuasion Workshop.
Reveal Your “Weaknesses”
It may sound like self-sabotage, but it’s a crucial move most people don’t make when trying to get others to see things their way, says St. Hilaire. “If you ignore what others perceive as your weakness, you actually end up shining a light on it,” he says. “On the other hand, if you acknowledge something that you’re not so great at, you can control other people’s perception self of it by recasting it as a strength, which helps win them over.” For example, if you’re a headstrong and opinionated type, St. Hilaire suggests saying something like, “I’m really passionate about my ideas, and sometimes I might get a bit too passionate, so let me know if I’m doing that, OK?” On the shy side? Say, “If I seem kind of quiet, it’s because I like to listen to what everyone else has to say and chime in after I’ve considered their perspectives.”
Work Your Body
We’re not talking about flashing some leg or cleavage, just making more eye contact—experts say it generally conveys a greater sense of authority and trustworthiness. Try to hold someone’s gaze for a few seconds. Any longer than that and it can start to get creepy. Notice the other person’s body language as well, says Maryann Karinch, author of Get People to Do What You Want. “It provides you with clues about their emotional state, which helps you tweak your pitch on the spot,” she says. Did the person you’re talking to suddenly lean back in his chair and cross his arms? He may not be all that open and receptive to what you’ve been saying, so now’s the time to try a different approach. If you notice a foot bouncing up and down—a possible sign that someone is nervous—try to put that person at ease by making her laugh or by simply smiling more yourself.
Ditch the Individualistic Ways
Yes, you’re special, but you want to find common ground with the people you’re trying to persuade. For example, you can mention that you are from the same state or went to the same college, if that’s the case. Or, try not to outright disagree with the person (a simple way to do this is to use the word and instead of the word but). Another trick: Subtly mimic the other person’s phrases and movements. A Duke University study found that students were much more likely to respond favorably to questions if the interviewer was mirroring their movements. All of this will subconsciously make people think you’re smart and trustworthy because it’ll make you seem more like them.
Use People
Human beings love to be among the first to sign on for something—but not necessarily the first. “Fear of failure keeps us from wanting to be at the head of the line,” explains St. Hilaire, “but being near it means you’re going to catch the wave right before it swells—and everyone wants to be that surfer.” So bring third party validation to your cause. Say something like, “My friend who’s a chef said she had one of the best meals in town at this restaurant.” It immediately signals that a few others are on board with you, which makes people feel as if they should hop on too.
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Monday, November 22nd, 2010
His Fear: That you’ll be different from what he’s expecting.
We’ve all been there — you thought the date went perfectly, he acts fine the whole time, and afterwards, you wait for him to call and…zilch. The sudden blow-off could be because you ended up being different than you were when he first asked you out. Even if it’s as small as sucking down a few too many cocktails when you may have told him you ‘don’t drink much,’ he’ll wonder if he sized you up all wrong in the first place. Doubting his own judgment isn’t a comfortable feeling—it’s something every guy dreads.
What You Can Do: Dating is kind of like shopping, says Steve Nakamoto, relationship expert and author of Men Are Like Fish — you don’t want to be different from how you’re advertised. Maybe you’re just drinking more because you’re nervous, but the best way to show you’re the same great girl you were when he first noticed you? Share stories with him. “Stories make for the most genuine conversation since you’re actually sharing real experiences,” Nakamoto says. “He’ll get a taste of your actual life that way.”
His Fear: He won’t be the only one you’re interested in.
Guys feel like on the first date more than ever, there’s insane pressure to really wow a girl. So he worries that his competition — aka every other hot guy in the room — could steal your attention. “He has no way of knowing whether you’re a serious dater or if you’re just looking for a casual fling,” Nakamoto says. He’ll watch for signs, like whether or not your eyes stay focused on him or if they wander throughout the date. And even if you’re just looking around at the busy room, the worst of him may assume you’re checking out that R-Patz look-a-like a few booths over. “He ultimately fears looking stupid,” Nakamoto says.
What You Can Do: If you’re in a busy place, you’re bound to both be distracted at one point or another — you can’t have your eyes glued to him at all times. Instead, reassure him that you’re truly interested in him by commenting on the things he says. If he shares a surprising story with you, say something like, “Oh, that’s really interesting! I never would have guessed that.” Then ask him to elaborate a little more to create a back-and-forth, which he’ll instantly recognize as you being truly engaged in what he’s saying. “That shows you’ve been involved in the conversation, and that he’s actually making a good impression on you,” Nakamoto says.
His Fear: He’ll touch you too soon.
Making any physical contact with a girl at all for the first time can be really stressful for guys, says Dr. Paul Dobranksy, author of The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love, whether it’s just putting his hand on your leg or brushing up against your arm. “In the courtship dance, he knows there’s a way things are supposed to go, so he’s concerned that he’s following those guidelines.” He’ll have a battle with himself: he wants you to know he wants to kiss you, but he doesn’t want to come off as pushy or overbearing. If he doesn’t get the response he’s looking for, it’ll be mortifying for him.
What You Can Do: Simple: Beat him to the punch. If you sense your guy’s feeling awkward about getting close, signal that it’s OK by initiating the first contact yourself, Dobransky says. If you’re sitting across from him at the table, graze his leg with yours. Or if you’re side-by-side, put a hand on his arm when you reach to grab a slice of bread. That way, he’ll get the message that you actually want him to touch you.
His Fear: You won’t give him another date.
Yup, before you’ve even ordered that Bloomin’ Onion appetizer, he’s already wondering if you’ll be hitting the town together next Saturday, too. Why? Guys approach dating with a career-like mindset, says Dobranksy. “In his mind, he has a job to do on the first date — to impress you. If he does that well, he’ll achieve his ultimate goal, which is getting to the next date, and the next date, and so-on,” Dobranksy says. So, mid-date, he’ll gauge his progress with you in terms of whether he thinks you’ll be up for another outing. And if he’s unsure, it’ll stress him out, since his failure will be a blow to his ego.
What You Can Do: If you’re not feeling the guy, it’s not your problem to make him feel better about it. But if you are interested, drop hints into your conversation that suggest you’re thinking about another hangout…sooner rather than later. “Mention that new restaurant you want to try and you think he’d love, or tell him there’s a movie out that you think you two should see together sometime,” says Nakamoto. That way you’re dropping the hint that you’re already thinking in terms of date #2, but you’ll still leave the ball in his court to do the asking. “If you do this the first half of the date, the rest of your time together will be a lot better,” Nakamoto says. “He’ll be able to relax, and you’ll nix some of that first-date awkwardness almost instantly.”
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Tuesday, November 16th, 2010
Take it from me, it’s possible to enjoy yourself immensely without a date. Here are 4 reasons to love being single (especially at weddings):
1. Your activities are not limited. Last weekend, two of our friends couldn’t walk into town with us because they had a baby with them and it was too treacherous with a stroller. We also watched the USC game and they had to leave at half-time. No one was dictating my bedtime, though!
2. The jokes are endless. You and your best girlfriend can get a lot of good material out of being each others’ dates. Some of it I would rather not share here, but it was funny to us—and our audience. (You really get to be the center of attention; since when have you witnessed a married couple doing stand-up at your table?)
3. You get quality time with your friends. As time goes on, I am getting closer to my girls and their husbands. Lucky me!
4. More time to lay out, shop, and gossip. No dude activities. No compromising. Whee!
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Tuesday, November 2nd, 2010
Ladies, I know we’ve all been in this situation. A friendship with a guy has been great and suddenly it turns a little weird. You can feel it coming and one day he blurts out that you are the love of his life. This is never easy and ALWAYS awkward! Never fear, there is an answer to how to deal with this situation. Click the link below for what I believe is the best solution!
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Monday, October 25th, 2010
This happens a lot: you’re dating someone consistently and he seems to really like you, but you get the feeling he’s not gunning for a committed relationship. So what are the specific signs that this guy—as pleasantly as things are going—does NOT plan to stick around long-term? I’ve seen the signs a million times, but just to confirm my suspicions, I asked an actual guy named Mike what he tends to do when he doesn’t plan to end up in a relationship with someone he’s dating. Here are 11 telltale signs:
Watch out, he’s out the door. No, really, he’s almost out the door—!
1. He texts instead of calls, or he texts more often than he calls. When a guy likes a girl, he wants to hear her voice. “Texting is not an easy way to communicate—it’s an easy way to avoid communication,” says Mike.
2. He finds reasons to blow you off or be late more times than not. Maybe he’s just flaky or disorganized, you say? Don’t make excuses. If a guy likes you and wants to continue hanging out with you, he’ll find a way to do so. Adds Mike: “I’ll come in to work 1 hour early if I want to get off in time to pick up cooking ingredients for a dinner date with someone I like.”
3. He talks to his ex-girlfriends. Nothing makes a guy forget his ex like a girl he wants to be with. If he continues talking with an ex, that’s the first sign that he’s either not over a prior girlfriend or he’s just not that in to you.
4. He avoids introducing you to his friends. He should be proud of you, want to show you off, and want to include you in his life.
”Why do we have to go out with my friends when we can dress up and stay at home?”
5. He avoids even minor instances of intimacy in public. “Listen, not all guys are comfortable with PDA. Not everyone likes to make out for the whole world to see. But when I really like someone, no matter what I’m generally comfortable doing, I’ll at least put my arm around her and give her a kiss on the cheek.”
6. He doesn’t use the pronoun “we” or use it in the future tense. If he talks about a great new restaurant he discovered, but doesn’t add, “We should go there sometime”—and maybe he just says “I go there a lot”—then he’s not interested in sharing things with you. Plus: “Guys who are into girls want to explore with them—not sit on the couch on every date,” says Mike.
He’s thinking, I wonder if I went back to that restaurant and got that waitress’s number…
7. He doesn’t do something sweet for you at least once a week. That doesn’t mean he’s buying you a dozen roses but he should have said or done something that made you go “Aw!” in the last seven days.
8. He doesn’t ask questions about your family and friends.
9. He doesn’t initiate at least 80% of the things you do together. “I call this the 80/20 rule,” explains Mike. “When I don’t like a girl, the 80% drops significantly. I’m not even aware of it. I’ll get off the phone and never close the conversation with a set of plans.” Note that it doesn’t have to be exact plans, but it should at least be, “Let’s hang out later this week and we’ll do dinner. I’ll call you tomorrow.”
10. He doesn’t remember your one month anniversary.
11. He hasn’t posted a picture of you together on Facebook within two months of the first date. Guys who are excited about you will post and tag your beautiful face!
Okay. Hopefully I didn’t depress you. But the message here is, if you want a relationship with someone and he’s acting out the above list, move on. I don’t believe in “waiting it out” or “breaking him down” so he will “come around.” Don’t put up with someone who semi-likes you. Date someone who is dying to be with you. (You will find him—but you have to know you deserve it!!)
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Thursday, September 23rd, 2010
Dating tips for independent women who don’t know what to do with an old-fashioned romance
A dirty little secret is being kept by many smart, independent women: In relationships, they’d prefer not to wear the pants. In fact, they long for their men in love to kick it old-school by, say, opening the car door, picking up the dinner tab (at least in the early days of dating), and eventually, asking Dad’s permission for their hand in marriage.
If you’re cringing right now, you’re not alone. Even the women who crave these ultratraditional displays feel a little squeamish about it. “Women work hard to be respected and taken seriously in so many areas of their lives, and some may feel as if they’re betraying their ‘strong female’ identity by adopting old-fashioned romantic conventions in which the man is, in some ways, playing a dominant role,” says Tara M. Emmers-Sommer, Ph.D., a professor of communication studies at the University of Nevada at Las Vegas. So how does a modern girl reconcile these two disparate sides of herself? Read on.
Romantics at Heart
When your guy squashes a big, scary bug for you—or better, whisks you away for a secretly planned weekend—there’s no shame in swooning just a little. “No matter how powerful and independent they are, women still want to be pursued, protected, and cared for by their partners,” says psychologist Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., author of Love in 90 Days.
You can blame it, at least in part, on biology. “Like all other animals, humans evolved to ensure healthy offspring. Millions of years ago, women wanted to mate with strong, resourceful, stable partners who could help provide for and protect their children,” says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., a professor of anthropology at Rutgers University in New Jersey and author of Why We Love. “And although it has been a long time since women have needed men to support them financially, the cues that indicate those same qualities are still innately attractive to women.” In other words, when he plans a date or helps you with a problem, it’s powerful because, on some deep and perhaps unconscious level, it shows his ability to take charge and his staying power in the relationship.
Plus, being wooed feels pretty damn great. It can boost your levels of feelgood dopamine—the neurotransmitter responsible for creating that romantic high—and the brain hormone oxytocin, which fosters feelings of attachment to a partner. Sweet gestures (bringing you a cup of coffee in bed, braving the cold to get the mail, driving you to the airport) can trigger that same lovey-dovey response, but a woman also tends to feel an increase in sexual desire when she perceives that her man is listening and taking care of her, says Kirschner.
Biology aside, we can’t ignore societal expectations, even in 2010. Emmers-Sommer conducted a recent study of 442 men and women between the ages of 18 and 49, and found that men are still largely the initiators when it comes to asking for a date, and that both sexes expect the man to always pay. “It’s social modeling: We’re given these scripts about the male-female dynamic,” she explains.
Some of these notions of old-fashioned romance have been drilled into our heads since, well, our first Disney flick. As we get older, we’re fed even more (and often traditional) relationship advice from our parents, along with being inundated by messages in ads, chick flicks, and reality TV.
Think about it—the commercial where the man gives his wife a new diamond ring when they hit the five-year mark, the romcom in which the hero chases his true love through airport security and onto the plane, leaving his shoes and spare change behind. And on reality TV, people fall in love and propose after, oh, roughly five dates (which consist of helicopter rides and romps on tropical beaches). A study done by Robert H. Woods Jr., Ph.D., at Spring Arbor University, and Samuel Ebersole, Ph.D., at Colorado State University at Pueblo, found that 18-to 25-year-olds avidly watch The Bachelor and The Bachelorette—and many of them claim they watch this type of show to live vicariously through the characters.
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